Healing from Miscarriage

If you have recently experienced a miscarriage, we are deeply sorry for your loss. We know that having a miscarriage can be a devastating experience for spouses, and you need time to grieve. The death and loss of a child is frequently called the ultimate tragedy. Losing a child in the womb comes with its own unique grief, including guilt, sadness, anger, and confusion. Oftentimes, when women experience a miscarriage, they feel alone, confused, and misunderstood, not knowing who to reach out to or where to find help. Counseling can be a source of healing and support during this painful time. Healing and hope are possible for those working through this grief.

Did You Know?

• 10-25% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage
• Most miscarriages occur in the first 13 weeks of pregnancy
• Experiencing a miscarriage can cause symptoms of PTSD
• Depression commonly arises in women and men who lose a child in miscarriage
• The depression and anxiety experienced by many women after a miscarriage can continue for years if left unaddressed, even after the birth of a healthy child
• Research suggests that women who experience a miscarriage and are actively religious have better mental health outcomes

Common symptoms include: 

Depression, anxiety, guilt, anger, fatigue, difficulty sleeping, irritability, intrusive thoughts, low self-esteem, feelings of loneliness, and religious confusion.

Recommended Resources:            

After Miscarriage: A Catholic Woman’s Companion to Healing and Hope by Karen Edmisten: This book includes personal accounts from women who have experienced miscarriages and insight into the emotions and experiences that come with loss. It may be a helpful companion on the journey of healing from miscarriage.

This Undeserved Life: Uncovering the Gifts of Grief and the Fullness of Life by Natalie Brenner: This faith-based book takes an honest look at grief and pain and may be a helpful companion for anyone questioning the role of suffering in their life.

One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp: This book focuses on the power of gratitude and can be helpful for anyone trying to find joy in the midst of suffering.

How We Can Help:

Fears and anxiety, sorrow and grief, physical pain, emotional numbness and depression, trauma, anger—these can all be part of what parents feel after a miscarriage. While only a parent can understand the sorrow that comes from losing a child, we are confident that you can heal from your loss.

If you or a loved one has experienced a miscarriage, counseling can help by providing support through the grieving process and hope and encouragement for the journey ahead. Counseling can help you develop coping skills, process the grief and overwhelming emotions, and find meaning in this experience.

“He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” (Revelation 21:4-5)